Why it exists
Nobody fell out. The messages just got further apart.
I live a long way from the people I grew up with. There was no argument and no falling out. The gaps between messages got a little longer every month, and then one day it had been four months with somebody who used to know everything about me, and I could not say when that happened.
I tried a repeating calendar event. It went off the day after we had spoken, because a calendar counts from a date and has no idea you already called. I ignored it, then I deleted it.
So I built the one that counts from the conversation instead.
Simone, who made this
Four months
is what it looks like
Why you have to tell it yourself
This is the question everybody asks, so here is the honest answer: it is not a choice. iOS gives no app access to WhatsApp, iMessage, Telegram, Instagram or anything else. There is no notification listener. Every clever way around it is either impossible or gets the app removed from the store.
So the job was never to get rid of the tap. It was to make the tap take two seconds. That is why the whole week is one swipe deck instead of a form.
There is a quiet upside. An app that read your messages would be an app that read your messages.
Sunday morning, one note arrives
A small stack of cards, only the ones who drifted
Swipe right if you talked, left if this is not the week
Gone until next Sunday. That is the whole app.
A number you can fail
A face you just read
Why a face, and not a number
“38 days” is arithmetic. It is also an accusation, and nobody thinks about a friendship that way. A number can be failed, and a thing you can fail is a thing you will eventually delete.
A creature that has gone quiet is not scoring you. It is showing you where things are, and you understand it before you have finished looking at it.
That is also why the app never says a number out loud. It says “a few weeks ago”, the way you would.
Twelve things people asked for
Read from the reviews and forum posts about the other apps. Each one has a page.
Friends are not leads →
No tags, no stages, no pipeline. A name, a rhythm and a face.
It remembers the little things →
The partner’s name, the interview, the dog. Written once, back on the card when you need it.
Logging takes one swipe →
No app can read your messages, so telling it takes two seconds instead.
Nothing to type in →
Pick your people from Contacts. The name and birthday come across.
Every friend gets their own rhythm →
Every two weeks for one, twice a year for another. No circles, no tiers.
Needing a reminder is not a flaw →
Life is busy. Wanting help to stay close is the opposite of not caring.
A few cards, not a list of everyone →
One note on Sunday, only the people who are due, done in a minute.
Pay once. Unlocked forever. →
Three friends free for good, then one payment. No cap, nothing to cancel.
Gentle, not pushy →
One note a week, no streaks, no red numbers. Ignore it this week and nothing happens.
Your friends never know they are in it →
No account, no server, no phone number. Notes stay on your phone and your iCloud.
A call counts. So does a coffee. →
It counts that you talked, not how. Text, call, video or dinner.
Not a feed. Just your people. →
No posts, no ads, no strangers. Fifteen faces and nothing else.